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Austria-Hungary had a complex internal structure. The head of state was Emperor of Austria and King of Hungary at the same time, or "Kaiser und Kรถnig" in German. This was often abbreviated as "K. u. K." when talking about institutions that applied to both Austria and Hungary.
So, technically, it would not be wholly inaccurate to describe the Austro-Hungarian throne as "the K. u. K. chair"
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Good to see our future PM being crowned next to British political heavyweights such as Count Binface and the local furry.
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"Brexit" cost 6% of UK economy, Bank of England company data suggests bbc.in/4ekYBRc
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Analysis showed how much the UK could have grown if it had not exited the EU.Faisal Islam (BBC News)
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the CD Database has a japanese song on this CD in scrambled text ->
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Another terrible AI-generated image of the gynaecological anatomy. It must be a day ending in a Y. Let's take a closer look at this wholly cursed illustration of a menstrual cup via @pzmyers
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But thankfully, you don't need the technological equivalent of that kid at school who told weird lies to show you what a menstrual cup really looks like in the body. Science has you covered. This is an MRI scan of a menstrual cup inside the vagina. It sits around the cervix.
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Another terrible AI-generated image of the gynaecological anatomy. It must be a day ending in a Y. Let's take a closer look at this wholly cursed illustration of a menstrual cup via @pzmyers
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In the interests of fairness, we'll start with what the diagram got right. Sometimes there is endometrium inside a menstrual cup, because endometrial cells form a part of menstrual fluid. That's it, that's the post on what the image got right.
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However, menstrual fluid does not typically look like strawberry milkshake and if it does, then you'll probably want to see a doctor about that. But that's the least of our worries. More importantly, menstrual cups absolutely do not go inside the body, particularly not somehow through some sort of small opening in what appears to be the bladder.
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And here's some more fun facts about the (presumable) vagina which differ somewhat from what this diagram tells you:
-The pubic symphysis is not inside the vagina
-Neither is the bladder
-And neither is the sacrum
All of these bits are nearby the vagina and might appear on a diagram with it, but are definitely not inside it.
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But that's exactly how generative AI works. We explored how ChatGPT is working *exactly as it is designed to do* when it generated this horrifying pregnant penis-rectum image masto.ai/@vagina_museum/115100โฆ
Today in AI Is Not A Good Source For Learning About The World's Most Misunderstood Body Part, meet this ChatGPT gem.Funnily enough, we're actually going to talk about how most of this is kinda sorta right (for small values of right), as a cautionary tale about generative AI.
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And believe us, you are not going to get a decent diagram of the gynaecological anatomy using generative AI. We tried. We used "good prompts". But the tech is doing exactly what it's supposed to do, which is making shit up vaguely based on proper actual sources that it's eaten. masto.ai/@vagina_museum/115231โฆ
When we posted this a couple of weeks ago, we had some AI enthusiasts insist that this diagram was the result of poor prompting, or that the prompt that the original poster made was to generate a funny, bad diagram. So we decided to test ChatGPT's capability... masto.ai/@vagina_museum/115100โฆ
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But thankfully, you don't need the technological equivalent of that kid at school who told weird lies to show you what a menstrual cup really looks like in the body. Science has you covered. This is an MRI scan of a menstrual cup inside the vagina. It sits around the cervix.
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You can read more about Maria Friburg and colleagues' 2023 research into biofilms and the positioning of menstrual cups here - the perfect palate cleanser to the in utero strawberry milkshake! pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/โฆ
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this MRI is so cool! It inspired some googling, and some learning.
I have been a menstrual cup user for over a decade and this is the first time I have seen an image like this. Very cool!
Now, I will preface this by saying I am not the owner of a body with a vagina, so may be speaking from a place of ignorance, but is the spine typically at a jaunty angle at the front of the body?
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@stuart ๐คฃ It keeps getting worse. @vagina_museum
@stuart So gald I wasn't the only one that noticed!
Perhaps it's a bladder-womb combo? Maybe there's some ingenious idea in there about using urine as amniotic fluid to save water for AI?
"My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard..."
@crazyeddie thanks for that mental image, I just threw up a little in my mouth XD (not really)
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- Just Wow! I don't know whether to laugh or cry! Generations of anatomists are turning in their graves!
jesus fucking christ, my legs just curled around each other like a pair of horny slugs
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Please do not attempt to use your menstrual cup like that...
Please do not attempt to use your menstrual cup like that...
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If it was there, I would expect way more blood.
the bone between the vagina and anus would be a welcome upgrade, probably
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It makes me so mad
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wow. wow and yikes and oh no.
brb downgrading my already fairly low opinion on what kind of things generative "AI" products can reliably get sorta-kinda-mostly-right-enough for casual use.
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this made me wince and I'm not even a woman
AI places a strawberry smoothie smack in the middle? Interesting
also ... *ALSO* THERE IS SOMEHOW A PART OF A HUMAN SPINE INSIDE THE UTERUS !?! WTF !?!
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I'm shuddering just from looking at this.
the most irritating thing is not even the wrong anatomy, but the testicle shaped thing which looks like a small brain with a smartphone camera attached to it
@funbaker Exactly. Cameras are really everywhere these days... ๐๐
OMG I'm glad this is fake, I was trying to imagine how you'd get it in there.
Not only does that look entirely and impossibly wrong, also very, very painful!
@vagina_museum@masto.ai @pzmyers dear god
oh I wish I could unsee this
Wow! Sure AI data centers use up a lot of water, are loud, cause heat islands, drive up electrical costs, and are fed with the blood, sweat, and tears of real humans BUT they also are wrong in new and creative ways!
Wat the actual โฆ a noble prize in medical research canโt be far off for AI
@GhostOnTheHalfShell Perhaps they'll start with a FIFA medical pee prize instead.
Whatever _did_ happen to Juicero?
Ohh god ok, i didn't read the AI part, and thought my understanding of anatomy greatly lacking because i struggled to interpret what on earth is going on in the pic...
Phew, it was just slop
And is that a popsocket on the wall behind the cup? I guess that could be useful. @vagina_museum @pzmyers
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Das Bild ist aber lustig - da sind die รผblichen 6 Finger ja noch Kinderkram gegen.
At first when my friend posted this image to me I hadn't read the context around it yet and I just went "um, no, that's not how menstrual cups work." luckily my friend already knew that because unlike some, he actually has a clue how female anatomy works, and lord knows I've talked about having to empty my cup on stream often enough XD But considering how many men think the blood and the pee come from the same hole, I don't have a lot of confidence in most men knowing you don't SURGICALLY INSERT a menstrual cup...how the hell would you empty and clean it, for one?!
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Da musste ich doch mal nachschauen, wie sie tatsรคchlich verwendet wird.
Und ja, die Menstruationstasse scheint ja wirklich nur Vorteile zu bieten.
This looks like a surgical emergency to me... also, that is definitely not a human abdomen XD
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I now agree with US insurance companies on "eyes are not a necessary organ and thus vision is a separate level of coverage" - I didn't need to see this shit
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what in the hell are those bones
what in the never in a million years
I know my partner struggled to remove one the first time, but this is ridiculous.
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this may be the single most incorrect and cursed "anatomical" "diagram" I have ever seen. What the actual fuck, basically everything is wrong, holy hell
the strawberry milkshake in the cup is not right and the fact that the cup is stabbing through the tissue seems horribly painful. ๐ญ Cramps are already painful enough.
Um... Why the hell are recommendations suggesting this kind of content to me?
Nothing can go wrong when AI takes over medicine
@wiert not onlyndows it make us stupid - it even attempts to make us infertile.
That umm...looks like surgical malpractice happened. Or that cup was inserted entirely too violently.
My GOD! This image traumatized me. You may need warnings for Bad AI. Imagining sticking the cup through my bladder is horrible, not to mention the bad labeling.
Thanks for the warning. I will never ask A.I. to show me the reproductive system now.
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Also, if anyone knows Sam Altman please slip this image into his dinner menu folio with a photocopy of the appropriate pages of the anatomy colouring book. 10 copies, he needs to be in detention for a while for this nonsense.
if this is general knowledge of US people ...
then I understand why they voted Trump... pfff
then I understand why they voted Trump... pfff
I'm pretty sure this isn't right! ๐
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Keir Starmer: "I am not prepared to compromise on the safety and happiness of our children."
Ok, good. Then give them all free school meals, well funded community centres with caring and emotionally mature staff, access to the arts, free spaces to exist in public, residential streets with less cars and more room to play, free higher education. Something to do during the summer holidays that doesn't make them feel like an inconvenience.
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The Rainbow Dash Dalek my husband bought at one of his first pony conventions has made its way back into our lives!
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CSAM generation is now openly "critical for national security." So yeah, America is going about as expected.
The US government has intervened in a lawsuit on the side of X, saying Grok is "critical for national security" wired.com/story/doj-lawyers-arโฆDOJ Lawyers Argue xAI Is โVitalโ for National Security in NAACP Lawsuit
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This makes sense, considering the many ties between Donald Trump and Jeffrey Epstein.
@soatok Not just Trump but yes.
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South Park scene where the government decides the fate of various companies on the verge of insolvencymerrillovermatter (YouTube)
American hegemony requires brutalizing people, especially vulnerable people. For a nation founded on human suffering, it makes sense.
a CSAM generator is national security in a nation run by a pedophile.
Agreed, this passes the sniff test
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Do you actually want us to tell you about our workflows?
@lukeshu now that you mention it, I am curious
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My dad had this conversation with me just before he left for work (night shift):
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โAnywayโฆ I donโt care about this gender, pronoun, stuff. Itโs not my business. All that matters is that sheโs very helpful.โ
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โSheโs a good colleagueโฆ Donโt understand all this fuss about peopleโs gender these days. She works hard and is always friendly. This media malarkeyโฆ About whatโs in their pants. Now, that donโt make sense to me.โ
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>hears new information
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>doesn't go into a petulant rage about it
Why is it this simple for my dad but apparently a struggle for so many others?
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reminds me of the person on reddit who claimed that people change their minds when presented with new evidence, someone replied linking like three studies that show that people don't usually change their minds when presented with new evidence, and the original poster responded saying they didn't care and were going to keep believing that anyway
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Can we please all stop the "newcomers to Mastodon should visit this and that site, follow these rules" etc? Social networks evolve. Trying to control the behaviour of newcomers is condescending and counterproductive in my opinion. I don't want the Fediverse to become a walled garden. #UnpopularOpinion, maybe. So be it.
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Nudging people once in a friendly and respectful way to get a profile picture and put some words in their bio is fine, but do check the replies to see if someone else already did that before you add your "well, actually" ;).
Also, remember why people donโt. Some people just want to read. Their accounts are there because you need an account to be able to follow multiple people or hashtags in the fediverse. If they want to be passive observers thatโs okay. They arenโt being nefarious by not posting personal information that will cause people to send them unsolicited messages, theyโre just shy.
And when people block follow requests for these people, donโt be surprised if they go and tell all of their offline friends that thereโs nothing worth reading here.
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I fully agree with your points. Especially the second one.
The first point might cause confusion for some of the people you mentioned, as they might ask themselves: โWell, why are your suggestions acceptable, but mine arenโt?โ
Thatโs the difference between addressing a newcomer and someone who knows how things work.
@sternengucker yes indeed, sooner this place becomes fully twitter the better.
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@Tattooed_Mummy @sternengucker Twitterโs Ragebait algorithm is the problem. Fediverse is free and everyone should be invited. We just see too many inofficial web police officers in public posts that flame new people who just want to talk.
Just be polite and have some sort of filter, if not these people are wrong on any โSocialโ platform
I answered a post a while back and since it was against the opinion of the poster and also I am new in mastodon, they said I am troll and went through all my posts and put pictures of my other answers. This is not a welcoming behavior.
@bsh The troll accuses someone else (you ;) of being a troll. Le sigh. Well, that's what the block function is for ๐
Somewhere there's a line between exert control, and just "give a gentle introduction to the existing cultural norms, without demanding compliance".
yeah, this. We are trying to foster a better social culture here,and because of how other networks operate,we have to be vocal about reminding newcomers that certain behavior is actually not OK and certain things are expected when someone takes responsibility for their own social media.
Things work differently here, people shouldn't have to guess or figure it out on their own when we've already learned the hard lessons and wrote th down.
I don't think it's an unpopular opinion. Instance rules should still be followed though but everyone should pretty much just enjoy their time here. Those people who tell others to follow this, that and other crap are just annoying. They remind me of my parents and they fucking suck.
How did you manage to hijack Jan's account?
part of the beauty of mastodon is an instance can make as many rules as it wants. But if people don't like them they can move instance.
@aj We apparently have a choice: an eternal-September big-bang where the unassimilated normies become the majority and the culture becomes thoughtless Facebook boomer culture, or keeping the HOA strong and absolutely insisting that everyone who joins watches the viewing list of Star Trek episodes before posting and puts a CW on photos of pet eye contact in case anyone finds that traumatising.
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It was pointless
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@chloeraccoon You Doubt Matt's Bouncyness?!
@krutonium Hey, for us it's in the future, for Matt it's in the past, anything could happen in between these 2 points of time!
The bounciest Matt on the Internet! ๐
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What was the ill-advised sequel to Netflix's Wednesday?
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Yeee I'm excited, these are always such fun ๐
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Loved that show, for many of us viewers this really felt like coming home (to somebody's kitchen table...)
Well done!
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if any of these laws were passed when i was a teen, i would be long, long dead, probably because i would have ended my life by suicide.
sincerely, a queer neurodivergent former kid who grew up in an abusive religious family in a country with no queer rights and whose only lifeline were other queer, neurodivergent and furry people online
fuck the law
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it's always us. it's always on us. it's never the companies or the techbros or the oligarchs. it's always our fault, because everyone thinks we are "stupid" and that our parents "always know best" and that we don't need no safety or community
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right that's one of the maddening things about these laws, they basically murder kids and simultaneously hide the evidence
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Age verification is being used around the West to implement fascistic censorship, and its proponents nakedly just want to kill free speech on the Internet. That's the only reason they're doing any of this.
Free expression is the light and air of any movement to make things less bad.
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the shitmongers rely on silencing their opponents in order to win. Otherwise they know their time is limited.
If free speech was undisturbed, then trump and his fascist goons know it is only a matter of time before they're all killed like Mussolini.
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I wouldn't be here if they'd managed to censor the internet when they first tried. (yes children, there have been previous reactionary censorship attempts.)
Same reason, different path to getting there. Disability and an overprotective mother.
I didn't know that there were other people like me in the world /at all/ until I was an adult in the eyes of the law. And I don't want anyone else to experience that hell.
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that or i would have figured out every damn way to circumvent it because, i had no community for people like myself
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Absolutely. But I'm alive and I'm going to visit people on Christmas who I met 2002 on the internet and who are also still alive ๐ฅฐ
Internet helped me to figure out my gender identity in an environment that had strict gender expectations for me. It helped me to get free from cult-ish religion and become more open minded and shed biases that had been stuffed into mh adolesent brain against my will.
Internet can be a great asset an escape.
They should instead be banning LLM:s stealing everyone's data, and making people addicted to it on purpose. "AI" reliance is way worse than TikTok to growing brains.
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WHY WOULD THAT BE HUH
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If you find yourself on a timeline filled with therians and otherkin, you may be told you will discover something new about yourself.
I agree.
You may discover you're the single human character actor in a muppet movie.
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Single human character actors are important parts of the Muppet ecosystem!!
honestly, describes several of my friend groups ๐คฃ
@JoscelynTransient oh no, Harley Quinns' Great Muppet Caper!?!
Harley Quinn + Muppets sounds like a delightful movie
might even have a therian headmate (it sometimes wants to be a red panda)
i legit feel like this, my entire friends group is just therians and furries and trans people and i'm just A Guy (tm)
it's even wilder when your only known headmate is a therian lmfao
"the single human in a Muppet movie" is a brilliant quote thank you
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a pint for pride month! ๐ป
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it's only $90k for a tld? Huh...
oh don't tempt me to go in on more domains
thats so silly, i love it
@scudo Sadly it's not an ICANN TLD and I don't know if furnic dns still exists...
I threw in some coin to this. Would be a neat thing to have even if I already have way too many domains as it is!
@dotmeow Sir, a second goofy TLD has applied to ICANN
See this blogger has written some thing new
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A flogger made from USB c cables. The handle of which is an evil USB drive that will exploit anything that its plugged into.
Perfect when you aren't sure if the entity you are meeting is human or machine.
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Just a note to everyone - Pride Month is no excuse to use generative AI to make "happy PRIDE" posts, merch, or any image or text related to it.
Generative AI is funded by facists who hate LGBTQAI+ and who fund laws against us. It is the tool of the enemy we all should resist together - not generate useless slop that muddies the message with AI vomit.
Using it shows no care, no love, and no solidarity.
#fuckAI #NoAI #PrideMonth #PRIDE #NoAIInPride
this pride month take pride in your work as well as your self and dont use ai.
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Dam #pride month already ๐? Time to put together something to beat last year's outfit ๐๐๐
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meal deal alignment chart
(obviously a lot of food, not vegan)
idk how "meal purist" an orphan source is โฆ
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Good olโ market capitalism.
The portable air conditioner unit that I ordered a week ago is now ยฃ100 more after a week of hot, sunny weather.
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Hello, world!
We're Wiki Workers United, a global solidarity union for the staff of the Wikimedia Foundation.
This account will share updates on our organizing effort, relevant news/info, and maybe the occasional meme. We promise to keep posting volume reasonably chill.
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We are Wiki Workers United, a global union for the staff of the Wikimedia Foundation. We are the people who do the work to provide a platform, services, and funds to support the Wikimedia movement.Wiki Workers United
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Signed your websites yesterday. You're doing the right thing, hope the Foundation will end up doing the right thing, too.
LETS FUCKING GO
I strongly support what you are doing. I hope that you clone Wikipedia and start a coop.
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Power to the people!
Holy shit I thought the mermaids unionized
Hire me plz โค๏ธ
hey folks. In response to my request to cancel my donation, MW sent me this update from the CEO. Whatโs your response to their claims?
@boffbowsh less talk and more action. They better start firing the union busting law firm they have im their payroll and hire the union organizers back.
I do not trust a single word of their bullshit coorporate union busting law firm written statements.
I support you, not the corrupt foundation that kept telling me I need to donate, but then got rich off AI training and immeditately started firing union organisers .. โ
Been a contributor and an intermittent donor for many years. No further funds from me without resolution in favour of workers.
โ Whose wiki? Our wiki!
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someone needs to invent a device that lets me hug my friends over the internet when they're in distress.
i cannot express how badly I need this right now
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Yay, my order from @spellingmistakescostlives arrived today!
SEGA #ACAB cap and pin. Plus some AI critical silver stickers.
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Omg brutal - but accurate.
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Omg brutal - but accurate.
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Itโs the Doom difficulty rule: the bottom tiers are usually harder to beat; the upper tiers are for babies.
correlates with cultural distance too
also, aliens is technically correct. just not extraterrestrials.
"wow who redid your patio?" - "aliens."
Cept all those Roman ones were brightly painted!
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Family guy meme in which a policeman holds a skin color chart in front of several pictures of historical monuments from History Channel. The top pictures associated with light skin tones are the Pont du Gard in France, the Colosseum in Italy, and the Parthenon in Greece. They're labelled "engineering marvels". The bottom pictures associated with dark skin tones are the Temple of the Sun at Machu Picchu, the Easter statues in Rapa Nui, and the Great Sphinx and the pyramid of Giza. They're labelled "aliens".
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the toilet paper industry, as there's be no-one talking crap anymore ๐
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Our Friendica (TROM Social) failed to update to the latest stable. Likely this bug github.com/YunoHost-Apps/frienโฆ
Seems easy to solve, but since our database is massive, around 80GB, it took around 20 hours to restore....
I understand that it totally sucks for a Social Network to be down for almost a day. People may be put off and not want to use Friendica anymore. Or our instance at least. But our instance has been very reliable for the past years and I always email people to tell them about updating it, so they are aware such things can happen.
Also, our budget for TROM.tf is around โฌ0, compared to the billions floating around Facebook and the like. So please understand that.
Today we will give the update another try, and it is likely to work. If it doesn't at least thanks to @YunoHost a backup will be automatically restored.
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No worries, some of us enjoy Friendica and TROM.tf for reasons that a day's worth of downtime couldn't sway. And I'd like to think there's more folk around here than just me who very much appreciate the hard work you and your team put in on our behalf. Plus, there's only one thing that could ever drag me away from this instance, and we all know I just can't be trusted to do the upkeep on one of my own.
\m/ thank you!
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Thank you for saying that. And yes the latest Friendica seems to work well, is probably a YNH packaging issue.
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It has been restored so we did not update yet. When we will try again I will message everyone ahead of time.
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Regarding that upgrade failure - I ran this:
sudo apt-get update --fix-missing
with that key errors:
Err:6 dl.yarnpkg.com/debian stable InRelease
The following signatures couldn't be verified because the public key is not available: NO_PUBKEY 62D54FD4003F6525
Err:7 packages.sury.org/php bookworm InRelease
The following signatures were invalid: EXPKEYSIG B188E2B695BD4743 DEB.SURY.ORG Automatic Signing Key <deb@sury.org>
Probably you can do a similar job.
The update error has nothing to do with this...
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I write a lot about my ongoing discovery of just how good cis women are to trans girls when they have not been preemptively made to fear us.
I write about how easy it is to get accepted as a trans woman, because I think a lot of transfems really have this fear of imposing. Because we have impostor syndrome for womanhood as social performance.
It is something that newly transitioning women need to hear. Our struggle and hangups and fears are parallel and often the same as those of cis women's.
They do not always understand the specifics of our circumstances, but the underlying struggle? They know.
And that's an important message.
But there's another angle I'm realising.
Cis women don't know that we don't know they know.
I'll give you a second to parse that one.
I think cis women do not fully understand our fear. They are welcoming, but I've seen them react to me gushing about how welcome I feel with slight surprise and minimising the things they said and did to make me feel welcome.
The reason is that they do not fully understand how fucking STARVED I've been of this stuff all my life.
A few years ago, here on Fedi, I read something that stayed with me. About how people who've been in an abusive relationship can burst out crying and have a huge outpour of loud gratitude after something absurdly trivial like their new partner offering them a glass of water or something. They act like nobody ever did something like that for them, to the bafflement of the other person. It's just a glass of water.
The reason being, of course, that in some sense they never DID receive this kind of small kindness.
A person that's been abused has a completely broken barometer of what is "normal". Treating people with basic kindness is the baseline, but to a person that's been victimised it feels like extreme, saintly goodness, at least initially. Because it's hard to realise that no, the horrors were not how people normally interact.
Same has been written about people leaving cults, abusive families, abusive communities.
Why am I mentioning this? Because trans people in general, and trans women in the specific, are kind of a demographic-wide example of that.
Like any abuser, a transphobe will make it seem like there's nowhere and no one to run to. Like they are the best we can get. Heck, some transphobic rhetoric will pose as the 'phobes doing us a kindness.
Here's the thing. Cis women do not necessarily fully realise that we never had a normal girlhood or, for many of us, any interactions with women in women-dominated settings, AS women.
I mean, sometimes they know, but they don't KNOW, know.
Yesterday I wrote about a nice time spent with a few girls that I am only getting to know. And I was gushing, both here on Fedi and to the girl that invited me to the thing. And I thought about that and I am realising that she probably doesn't understand how big a deal this is, *even* when I say how big a deal it is.
Because she, presumably, had a relatively normal time being a woman. So she doesn't understand why women interacting in a friendly and casual way is blowing my mind.
Because it's hard to convey that all my life I was primed to think cis women would reject me and treat me like not just a man, but a predatory, dishonest man pretending to be a woman. I know it's not true, but I've not *experienced* it being untrue.
Transphobes badly need to convince us (and themselves) that all, or most, cis women do not want us to live as women.
Most cis women don't *know* these words are being put in their mouths.
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This is one reason why I talk so much about being trans, both to cis and trans people.
(I mean, other than the fact that I'm an attention whore /hj )
People are not mind readers. They will only know your experience - be it one particular to you or shared with one group of people or another - if you tell them how it is for you.
I didn't know how much I had in common with other trans women before I started having conversations with trans women about their experiences and mine.
And that helped me realise I'm a woman.
And later, I didn't know (and maybe still don't know) how much I have in common with cis women, too. And that knowledge is making me more bold, happier and I think a better person to others.
So I know super well that this kind of sharing can be a game changer for a lot of people. Some people figure things out looking at others, but some do need to share, or to hear someone share, before they realise "oh! So that's how it is. So that's how I am the same/similar/different to that other person".
The best way to defeat "divide and conquer" tactics by evil people is to communicate. As taught by every shitty TV sitcom from the 80s and 90s.
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It makes me very happy to hear that my fellow cis women are treating you well, Alicja! There are a lot of paths to womanhood, none of them easy, and we should support each other when we can. ๐ซ
Itโs obviously different, but as a cis woman I empathise deeply with this.
I was diagnosed autistic in my late 40s and spent most of my life feeling like an alien, especially among women - not like I wanted to be a man, but like I lacked whatever quality made womanhood come naturally to others. I never felt like I fit in, or was interesting to be around, and I was genuinely astonished, if a woman wanted to know me.
Your post is powerful, really thought-provoking.
@GoingDownWithSundial Im AMAB and trans and autistic and if i remember my childhood correctly, i always felt alienated and cast out from my peers due to being autistic (and their ableism) so the expectation on my part wasnt even there to fit in in a gender way or a sexuality way. So what you are saying makes sense to me, being autistic can make you feel alien to your peers in similar ways that being trans can.
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yes, In my experience, my interactions with cis women were some of the most positive ones amongst cis people in general, which surprised me at first too! I've maybe only had like 1 or 2 bad actors from their side, otherwise the reaction was always an overwhelming support :o
That reflects my personal experience as well โ
โ Very well put. Thank you for putting words on this.
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Despite attending an all-girls school, I mostly had groups of guy friends as a child and teenager.
Only since my mid-30's / early 40s have I begun to deliberately cultivate groups of women friends.
The love and acceptance that I find in these groups is nothing like I experienced in my childhood. I know that it can't compare to not having a girl childhood, but I also find it wonderful and precious to be accepted in groups of women. โค๏ธ
Only since my mid-30's / early 40s have I begun to deliberately cultivate groups of women friends.
The love and acceptance that I find in these groups is nothing like I experienced in my childhood. I know that it can't compare to not having a girl childhood, but I also find it wonderful and precious to be accepted in groups of women. โค๏ธ
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Yeah, children and teens, girls included, can be vicious little beasts. I hear the support and sisterhood part can be somewhat hit and miss for many.
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I'm a cis woman married to a trans woman. I *know*.
I made quite similar experiences actually.
Most clueless cis people I met sure weren't very sensible about word choices and reading the room ("so i was wondering, ehh, are you a boy or a girl??"), but once you gave them an answer to whatever they were wondering, they just would shrug, accept it and move on with our activity at hand.
They'd then include me in gendered activities and spaces without any awkwardness or second thoughts at all, they'd be super relaxed about it, they'd clearly just take my gender as truth, and they'd get irate on my behalf if people misgendered or excluded me because they were genuinely baffled why people would mistreat me that way. It was as natural to them as anything else that I was a woman, it didn't even occur to them that it could be "wrong".
It took my middle-aged, cranky, Yugoslavian coworker who never heard of trans people exactly two days to completely understand my womanhood. When I eventually talked to her about the whole thing, she was surprised I brought it up, but said something that stuck to me ever since:
That she met a lot of unique and surprising people in her life, and that you learn things about the world and other people every day. And that it was just an interesting medical fun fact about me. And that's all. She said that to her, it was no different than when she met a black guy in our village and then found out he and his family are actually natively German. She compared me to her grandma, who apparently had a lot of facial hair, which ran in her family. It was just a fun fact about me that I'm trans, nothing more.
The validity of my womanhood was never in question to her, just whether I was a woman at all. That's the main thing really.
You really hit the nail on the head: transphobes really, really want to make us think that we're alone. That everyone naturally sees us as freaks by default, except those we have successfully 'convinced of our ideology'.
It's actually the same mechanic at play as with conspiracy types, crazy conservatives or elderly people refusing to go with the times.
They want to use "common sense" as a backup to try to convince you that their irrational fears are actually normal and how everyone else thinks. They're super afraid of having to change their world view, of being wrong about something. They want to make us feel like we have no support, not necessarily to hurt us directly, but because they themselves secretly feel ashamed and insecure about the world moving past them or judging them for something they don't understand. (Ideological transphobes who know what they're doing nonwithstanding, they're doing it on purpose).
That's also why allies can sometimes be insidiously worse than clueless folks. Allies might just as well have the same thought patterns as transphobes, but end the thought process on "...but it would be mean to misgender them, I should be nice and supportive."
They still fundamentally think we're freaks, they just think it's ethically good to be nice to freaks.
Before my coworker experience, I always felt that even if cis people accept us, they at best mentally create a third category: women, men and "trans". Or that they'd always see me as a guy who wants to be a woman and who they needed to be respectful of not to hurt their feelings. But that isn't the case. They just see me as a woman with a medical history.
Transphobes are the only ones questioning people's genders' validity. Normal people don't even have that thought process, because validity isn't an idea they associate with gender.
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im afraid precisely because most of the "allies" in my life are transphobic, and I live in a place where MAGA is popular.
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This instance, atomicpoet.org, is itself a social experiment:
What will happen if I exit a mainstream social media platform, fly free of corporate and institutional overseers, and just say whatever the hell I want on my own damn platform?
What I find amusing is that BIPOC, LGBT+, and women are often accused of trying to de-platform whatever isn't in their favour. But at least for me, that hasn't been the case.
The biggest snowflakes have been cis white hetero men who really can't stand it when I say anything remotely political and demand that I start using CWs to censor myself.
And it's not as though I've never had a disagreement with someone from a marginalized community. But they've definitely been more civil.
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The only time Iโa white cis gender hetero manโwas ever called a โcolonizerโ at a university was when a white cis gender hetero woman disapproved of me dating a woman of colour.
Let that sink in.
This instance, atomicpoet.org, is itself a social experiment:What will happen if I exit a mainstream social media platform, fly free of corporate and institutional overseers, and just say whatever the hell I want on my own damn platform?
What I find amusing is that BIPOC, LGBT+, and women are often accused of trying to de-platform whatever isn't in their favour. But at least for me, that hasn't been the case.
The biggest snowflakes have been cis white hetero men who really can't stand it when I say anything remotely political and demand that I start using CWs to censor myself.
And it's not as though I've never had a disagreement with someone from a marginalized community. But they've definitely been more civil.
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